I think the real issue here is what causes a person, who is in a comitted relationship, and has taken marriage vows and should know that marriage is a partnership of equals- to risk his career, you and just about everthing else to have an affair with a tramp?
I just don't know what goes through a person's head when they make that decision. It wasn't the BBD (Bigger Better Deal) What value did he gain? Can you truly trust someone to be rational the next time he is confronted with that decision? It's not logical. He didn't value or even think of his commitment. The question is why?
Google "phenylethlamine" and "love addiction" and you will better understand what goes through their head.
It wasn't until I learned to view affairs as very powerful ADDICTIONS, that I could begin to understand why men would throw away highly successful careers, and women would throw away their own children and families. To me, it's the ONLY thing that makes ANY sense whatsoever, it can be proven physiologically (phenylethlamine-soaked brains even look different on CAT scans!!!), and it is the basis for the entire "one MUST first separate the addict from the source of their addiction" position.
