Sometimes we are not aware of how our psyche works and how we would react. The hardest part is learning your limits. You don't know them until you hit them.
I know we will be ok. I know there are plenty of people out there with whom we can get along if we have desire. Still our subconscious is sabotaging us and taking us for a ride.
We have a choice to be aware of that and use our brain or let subconscious run our lives.