talia i really like your comparison to giving a loan to someone when i didn't have the $$. makes A LOT of sense. i can't give my H what i don't have to give right now, but i can continue to at least be supportive and kind in my responses. that seems to be working at least in terms of his continued contact.
actually, my initial reaction to his texts last night was to try and figure out what he was thinking, but then i stopped myself and thought, what would talia say? i do hear your continued advice that i stop trying to read his mind and i agree with you. in the defense of the poster who often offers his thoughts on what my H may be thinking or feeling, it has been very helpful for me to talk to someone who has ADHD and understand the way the ADHD brain operates - just because it gives me insight on how my H's brain works. i believe he merely means to offer me some insight, but i can assure you that i am working my hardest to make decisions based on what is best for ME, not based on what i think my H may be thinking.
i am really gearing up for my trip this week...i'm bringing my running shoes and my yoga matt so i can eat a few extra beignets and not feel too bad about it.
i'm glad to know my feelings are normal...i do plan to talk to my IC about them and hopefully she and i can make some sense of them!
Me30 H29 M2.5 T5 H moved out 1/23/2010 H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010 ...feeling hopeless
i do hear your continued advice that i stop trying to read his mind and i agree with you. in the defense of the poster who often offers his thoughts on what my H may be thinking or feeling, it has been very helpful for me to talk to someone who has ADHD and understand the way the ADHD brain operates - just because it gives me insight on how my H's brain works. i believe he merely means to offer me some insight, but i can assure you that i am working my hardest to make decisions based on what is best for ME, not based on what i think my H may be thinking.
