New here but have been a voyeur

[Truegritter]

Lola

I agree with Puppy great job! I think the real issue here is what causes a person, who is in a comitted relationship, and has taken marriage vows and should know that marriage is a partnership of equals- to risk his career, you and just about everthing else to have an affair with a tramp?

I just don't know what goes through a person's head when they make that decision. It wasn't the BBD (Bigger Better Deal) What value did he gain? Can you truly trust someone to be rational the next time he is confronted with that decision? It's not logical. He didn't value or even think of his commitment. The question is why? And why will he now? I see a lot of hoping his therapist gets to work on him and wishing you will get something better, and "I don't think he's a serial cheater". There is a big IF here and i think you better be comfortable with the reasons and the cure before you let your guard down.

I am struggling with this same question with my W.

Gritter