It's weird to come over here feeling so different inside yet still reading, seeing and feeling so much pain on the boards..
I am so sorry that some of you are still going through such misery and heartache.
All I can do, is tell you that if you grab onto all the positves you can, (and yes at times there seem to be none...) then slowly you will notice that you are growing stronger and the pain is getting less, little by little !!
It is a process and we all go through this at our own speed, no use pushing it, as it will only send you a few steps back each time.
Remember also that this is not a quick solution, we move forward, only to find out that something or other has made us fall backwards again, but we get up, and keep going...forward !!
I know many of the newbies, may not see me as a 'success story' because my H never came back, but in a way, I think my H never actually left...he's still here, we're still good friends, he still seeks me for advice and now has a totally different person in front of him as I have grown tremendously and am a confident, happy woman, with no grudges and no bitterness. We no longer have a marriage, but the connection is still there even though I know in my heart there is now room for another man, another love.
Please know that this too is a great achievement, and that it does not mean I am pro-divorce at all ! I just think that sometimes, things go the way the go, and we have to learn from it and make the very best of it !!
Take care xx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
