Wife wants separation, is there still hope?

[trytryagain]

hi, officer (wow, it usually makes me nervous to say that!!). sorry to hear about your story, especially so soon after getting married. i think it's great you're in counseling right now, that's a great place to start. don't get discouraged because these things do take time, so 5-6 days of TLR technique really isn't that much of a span of time.

you may want to try reposting this in the newcomers forum, there's more traffic there and you will most likely get more and faster responses. i know how awful it is to post and feel like you wait an eternity for someone to respond.

i am sorry your wife won't try counseling because constant sleeping and loss of interest in activities or being in a "slump" are often signs of depression.

time and space are your friends right now...my H moved out a month ago and after 2 weeks of no contact at all, he's been reaching out to me slowly, asking to meet with me, sending me text messages, etc. the thing for you to focus on right now is really working on yourself and working with your IC to get over those issues of anger/controlling/belittling your W. ask yourself this: if you were your W, would you want to be in a R with you, based on the way you treated her over the years?

do not believe what she's saying right now. that she'll never forgive you or that she'll never be over it. people use words like "never" or "always" when they are in crisis. my advise it to NOT try to read her right now. she's obviously trying to work things out in her own head right now and trying to understand what she means when she says or does something will only make you nuts. focus on getting back on track yourself and being the man your wife would WANT to be married to.

hope that helps....again, i'd move this post or repost it in newcomers!