CG: He finally got here around midnight and knocked on the door. The first words out of his mouth where "I realized what I said on the phone was rude. When I said "better offer" I meant a better offer than mowing the lawn". (his better offer was drinks with OW, lol!) I said fine. He then asked where his turkey burger was. I mean, really? You show up more than three hours late and expect me to hold dinner? I told him I had finished dinner hours ago. He got VERY nasty and said "fine, I guess I don't need to eat" and stomped out.
WAS are in a selfish state they rarely think about how small comments or actions can hurt the LBS. IOW, try (not easy, I know) to not take it personally.
That is an awful story and very typical sounding. The fog of me, me, me "why ever should your feelings be hurt?" cluelessness I sometimes think is a mask for passive-aggressiveness. Don't know if FM's H is being passive aggressive, clueless, or now he fancies himself a relationship doctor (even though he was embarrassed to get "caught" playing that role in her house).
I KNOW that my H while in a total wreck and early walkaway mode was a "listening ear" for others' relationship problems. Which I found hilarious. My IC said it is sometimes a way to compensate for feeling like a failure. They try then to succeed at work or in "helping" others with their problems because they have so utterly failed to address their own sitches. It is to address their self esteem. Not sure if what she said is true or not, but it was interesting.
