Another thing to keep firmly planted in your mind is how important it is to let comments the WAS makes roll off your back.
Yes, they are insensitive and hurtful but I often think the WAS has NO CLUE how insensitive and hurtful they really are.
Shortly after my H moved out he called me from work and asked if he could come by and pick something up. He said he was getting out of work at 7, had to quickly mow his grandparents lawn after work and would be here at 9. I said okay. I told him I was making turkey burgers and asked him if he would like one. He said he would.
Well, 9 passed... 9:30, 10:00 and no H. I ate my dinner (silently fuming he could be so rude and not even show up) and went about my business. Shortly after 11pm he called and I could hear he was in a bar. He said "sorry I am late, I got a better offer". I was stunned he could even say something like that. I told him it was late and I would tape what he needed to the door.
He finally got here around midnight and knocked on the door. The first words out of his mouth where "I realized what I said on the phone was rude. When I said "better offer" I meant a better offer than mowing the lawn". (his better offer was drinks with OW, lol!) I said fine. He then asked where his turkey burger was. I mean, really? You show up more than three hours late and expect me to hold dinner? I told him I had finished dinner hours ago. He got VERY nasty and said "fine, I guess I don't need to eat" and stomped out.
WAS are in a selfish state they rarely think about how small comments or actions can hurt the LBS. IOW, try (not easy, I know) to not take it personally.
