Yes, I do need to set a boundary and those are EXACTLY the boundaries I want with #1 being the most important one for me.
I am kinda of tied by a deadline. Before I moved out we broke the lease to our apartment. So basically, my husband wants to know what I am going to do. He is not a straightforward type of guy but he has to get an apartment by the end of March and is basically trying to see if I would move back with him. If I am not, he is going to get a one bedroom apartment.
I saw you wrote to mb28 that her husband getting his own apartment is BAD. I believe that also because my husband will just get comfortable living that lifestyle. And he will have to get that apartment for a 14 month lease (thats how much longer he will be in that area with his current job).
My question is should I bring up the conversation that I dropped with him last night and say something like "I thought about it and I want our marriage/our family. However, I will not do anything until you have established no contact with OW and we have a FT that we both agree to see."
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo