telling children about dad's mlc affair

[lalxx]

Wow guys thank you all from the bottom of my heart!

I have only a few non negotiables and have had since he left - I didn't know it was a MLC unitl early January 2010 when I found a few Forum and starting to put the pieces together. My non negotiables (in no particular order) are:-
1. the kids do not need to know about the OW
2. I have no intention of seeing or being in touch with the OW
3. my husband's contact with the children needs to be regular and consistent
4. My husband is welcome to join me at Counselling anytime
5. The children's home is sacrasanct

I have since added:-
1. I will look hot and play it cool with my husband - this has morphed into (Detach - Detach - Detach)
2. I will get financially independant really quickly
3. I will put some space between us (D-D-D)
4. I will put myself first and protect the kids from the fallout
5. I will heal myself


Every day is a school day isn't it and I ahve been astounded at how kind people (some complete strangers) who have shown care and thoughfulness towards me since my husband has left.

I write everything down in a journal and I have whittled who I speak to about my situation to a couple of friends - mainly I seek support from reading on the internet and friendships struck in the ether via Forum like this one.

I am still finding my way around this Forum - I believe I have seen "children" presenting themselves with my husband in the last year - so any threads discussing this would be really helpful.

Thanks you all for your thoughts - it is good to know my instinct was the right one.......

lalxx