Avoiding the doormat - need advice

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Everyone so far says no.

I say...evaluate. Still do in fact.

Would you help her get the car if you were married and all was roses?

Is the car a safety concern for your children?

Are you Scroogey McScroogerson with money?

Instead of a flat NO.

The fact that you are wondering if you are simply saying no to show her what life would be like without you...

Check into the legal sides, do you get the car if she default sand you pay? Are there legal ways to protect yourself? Is her complaint about you and money valid?

I am not saying reward the MLCer.

I am saying look deeper before YOU come up with YOUR answer.