WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[Ken62]

HI sandi2,

I guess I also wanted to know what some of the "patterns" are after they have left. Michele's article talks about things leading up to WA but I thought with your knowledge taht you could give me examples of "patterns" to look for now that she is on her own.

Like I said, I believe that both of the EAs have run their course and she has said that she is NOT ready to date anyone yet so I'm just not sure of her mental state. Is she just enjoying her alone time? Is she questioning her decision? I know every situation is different and that you can't read her mind but these are the things that I think about.

I will be seeing her Friday AM when we sign the final papers before they are submitted to the courts. I know to act the 4Cs but I also want her off the joint credit cards and on her own with the settlement check that she can have. I have sent on e-mail to the mediator but have heard nothing back.

What do you tell a WAW who asks you to do favors for her and what do you tell them when they say things like "I thought we were going to be friends"? I think that I need to be prepared for both of these possibilities if and when they come up.

Thanks,

Ken