Information is a good thing. Knowing what your rights are is definitely justifiable...doesn't mean you are giving up. So it is good in my eyes.
Yes I am only trying to find out what make the most sense for me. I do not want a D BUT - I want to know what I am potentially looking at. At the end of the day the time with my kids is my # 1 priority. If waiting does not change that outlook - then wait I will. If waiting means that I may not have a chance at spending as much time with them as possible - then I will have to decided. I do not want a D but I also do not want to loose the time with my kids. Nor do I want to be taken to the cleaners because she is sick and may not come out of it. That may sound selfish to some but I do need to consider my kids and my needs.
At the end of the day...I'm just a Dad trying to make sure that I am not hosed. That is all. I also feel like I need to set some boundaries on what is acceptable behavior. All I am doing is finding out my opitions. I just recived a raise (yipee) and a very decent bonus. I will deal with the cash issues as my attny suggests. I will not (repeat not) do anything to make this easy for her. I understand that she is lost right now but that does not mean that I need to swim in her waters.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
