Tom, Glad to hear you are okay, I think you will find as the Separation goes on the tension will ease between you and your W and eventually you will be able to communicate better with her. Bad news is this takes time probably months, reality is weeks will go by w/o much change.
My mistakes during this time was not letting go and trying to continue to control her. I also knew way too much about what she was doing which in turn drove what I was doing which was pushing her further away.
It is just now that I feel her stop moving away. She is at a standstill, looking around for where to go next.
Do not do or say things that will keep her running from you, she will eventually turn and look over her shoulder to see if you are there, don't be there. Hard to do, this is the whole point of GAL, busy yourself with you. When you do interact with her, nice and polite and smiles. There will be challenges ahead, she will test you and throw stuff in your face, do not react!! This will take time for you and for her.
NY, you have to be separated 18 months before anyone can file right? That is a long time.
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