didn't speak a word. He truly sucks the life out of the room. He doesn't look very good and you can feel his negative energy. I didn't stay long. Said goodbye and that was that.
I have to say that I felt kind of empty after leaving. I had the feeling that I wanted to call and speak to him.. but I haven't given in. I need to wait and see what he is going to do. Let him make the effort 100%..right?
I would think this is the time you want to become "the better option." is that how we put it here?
if he is all drawn out, haggard, depressed, looking like crap...
go in the opposite direction!
Be the life of the party. Upgrade your wardrobe. Go all out. SMILE SMILE SMILE. And start having the time of your life no matter what you are doing. what does that girl sing ...
The party dont start till I walk in...
Right.
Get out of limbo by making things happen for yourself. I know a lot of very smart people say don't be punitive about their course of actions. but crap. Start having fun yourself. Even if it means moving forward with your life without them. Let them see what a great, happy person they neglected. (And now have to win back)
Ever read the threads on this site?
Marriage goes south. Wife gives husband the ILYBINILWY. Starts having a life of her own. Possible other guy in the picture.
And, so often, the husband goes freaking depressive. Whining, begging, crying, anti-depressants, starts up with how can you do this to the children arguments, the whole nine yards. correct?
And the WAW is even further repelled.
I bet every woman they meet is like, 'nope. downer!' All he talks about is his failing marriage and STBXW. yuck!
Do not join the pity party. Make the happy emotions the norm. You will then realize, you are not in limbo, people are attracted to you, and you have choices.
not really a pep talk to send you into battle with. so i will end it with, start with 50 situps and some jumping jacks and see where your day goes from there
