f you don't know WHO it is.. let it go to voicemail.
I NEVER take my calls blind.. if it says private I let it go to voicemail... I NEVER pick up a call BLIND...
LOL -- I'm the exact same way. I also ignore e-mails that just say something cryptic, like "Call me," or "Please call me," or "Are you available for a call?" At MOST, I'll reply with "Regarding -- ???"
Thanks Cutter- so far so good, I'm working on getting in w/ L in the next few days and I will go ahead and file. I heard from a go between that W and MIL found a place together and may be moving out this weekend. I also learned that W has been coming off her meds, is highly stressed and has been crying more-something I have literally never seen first hand.
None of this means anything except for the moving out part. Obv I know why shes stressed but no clue about the crying.
I'm taking the advice above and freeing myself from disrespect and BS from WAW. She can have OM and wake up one day wondering how the F she got where she is...
Anyhoo, home computer is up and running so I should be able to post my thoughts at night-
If she's going off her meds, that's going to induce stress and the crying may be due to the stress as well... its all related... OM, no medication, stress, and tears... they all feed off one another.
I know- I hate the fact that now she's finally able to experience her emotions...so much has happened.
There was a point in our conversation over the weekend where she said she "just couldn't share her feelings w/ me- for some reason it was hard for (her) to share them w/ ME." I guess she stressed me as opposed to OM.
WTF?! Spew and blaming no doubt.
I broke down a little this morning- just can't believe it's unfolding this way.
Overall feeling pretty good- still seeking out the L to get this done...of course also praying that W opens her eyes or connects the dots before it's too late.
Unfortunately I cannot wait for that to happen- emotionally preparing for the end.
Finances are a wreck and I feel that much will come out in this D- her villainizing me to her "paralegal friend" has fueled contempt and no doubt "get what you can whil you can" type attitude.
W is better than that, but she's surrounded herself w/ sabre-rattling anti-Maynard army of "me, me, me's."
Maynard. When you are Dark / DIM You do not find out about her crying. Meds I can understand. But the rest. Does not matter.
You are still second guessing yourself. You are still reacting. STOP. Your life. Take Control. You will not be able to emotionally prepair for this. You will break down again. And you will be in hell. But you need to walk through this.
You cannot handle contact nor hearing. So cut it out.
WTF do you care about spew and blaming.
Let them attack. Remain civil and do whats right.
If you continue to follow this path you will begin to hate this woman. And she was your wife. Do you want to hate a person forever?
Detach and move on with your life.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
I know- I hate the fact that now she's finally able to experience her emotions...so much has happened.
Don't hate this fact. Let the realisation of what she has done fall upon her. That needs to happen.
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There was a point in our conversation over the weekend where she said she "just couldn't share her feelings w/ me- for some reason it was hard for (her) to share them w/ ME." I guess she stressed me as opposed to OM.
You're mind reading. Very bad idea. We all did it. Take advice though. Stop it. You actually have no idea what she really meant and that could be a million things from nothing to the world hates her.
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WTF?! Spew and blaming no doubt.
Mind reading.
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Overall feeling pretty good- still seeking out the L to get this done...of course also praying that W opens her eyes or connects the dots before it's too late.
Look after you. W has plenty of hangers-on to look after her.
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Finances are a wreck and I feel that much will come out in this D- her villainizing me to her "paralegal friend" has fueled contempt and no doubt "get what you can whil you can" type attitude.
No matter who she hooks up with, L's will do that ... it's nothing personal. My own take on it (and W is NOW wanting half of the house after promising not too) is that she is too dumb to see when an L is making her go to court to line their own pockets (court work is expensive :)). It's nothing personal. It's nothing personal. It's nothing personal. WAS's are just dumb.
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W is better than that, but she's surrounded herself w/ sabre-rattling anti-Maynard army of "me, me, me's."
She needs justification for her actions Maynard. Having your hangers-on tell you you're doing the right thing and spoon feeding you how much better you are without you is the easiest way to do that. Maynard - this isn't about you.
This is about her and how she needs to feel that she is doing the right thing for her own sanity - regardless of whether it actually is or not.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
Alot of truth spoken above... Def guilty of mind reading... W has agreed to put off D. She claims she will nix OM and go to MC so that I will understand. She claims that she will never M again. That anyime we speak, O start to have hope and that there is none.
I have not disonnected, I was suicidal today. Its been 5-6 months since I felt like this...dont really know whats up. Guess not Galing is to blame...
I appreciate you looking in on my sitch and I really like your quote...
Trying to figure out some long term goals post D. Career, moving, etc.
This hole ordeal has really shook me to my core...my world was upside-down...now trying to look for what is constant in my life and what needs to stay and what should go.
I just wanted to say that I wish I found this place years ago- I wish I read the books and had the concept of M that I do now before I started the journey.
