Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Thanks girls! Andabelle, it never stops being amazing!

I've remembered the lessons I learnt when he left and all the IC I had. I am a different person nowadays and our R is more loving and equal as a consequence. I'm not insecure, but it IS lovely and also important to me, to be engaged now after all that went on. I mean, the way he just walked out like that, its still shocking that he could have been so ..cruel. To abandon me down here where we had not long moved, in a big expensive house, with me struggling at college anyway and I had no friends here or job even! Its not something that ever comes to mind when I am with him and it all feels like a very long time ago.. but it did still happen. And it altered me forever and I dont suppose I would ever be as complacent as I was pre-bomb. I have forgiven him, but that doesnt mean I have forgotton, because it really was a shitty thing to do to someone, just a few weeks warning, no discussion, no voice, no chance, to be so brutal.

But thats a consequence of him being emotionally unhealthy and getting to a crisis point in himself and his own personality that needed to blow apart. You cant make an omelette without breaking eggs right. And he is much happier and contented nowadays and he's even just cut his AD's to just 10mg and I think he will be off them altogether by summer. That will be 5 years after the crisis hit (his Dads death).

I could never read Piecing because it used to upset me, but for those that need any inspiration and are reading, listen to your intuition and cut out the rest of the noise, which is how I never lost hope.