Am I in the right place? Need advice and support.

[Wholeagain]

Hi Clife,

I have not read your thread very thoroughly, but this is what jumps at me.

Stop guilt ridden behaviour. Feeling guilty is not making any good for you, your H or children. Making consistent changes does.

Give lovingly. If you cannot do something without expecting something in return, don't do it. It only builds resentment.

No R talk. Don't demand anything.

Let go of resentment. Resentment leads to entitlement which leads to excuses not to change.

Don't be afraid to D.

Pardon my grammar. Hope it helps.