Vacillating husband

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RNM,

WOW! I just finished reading your sitch from beginning to now. I think you are doing a great job! I just started posting, and could 'feel' your loneliness while you were waiting for responses.

Sometimes it's hard. There was a thread I was reading that was getting a lot of responses, and the poster seemed to pretty much ignore all the good advice he was getting. Thought 'hey, I'm trying hard here, why not me, boo hoo hoo, whoa is me' ...

I, too, am dealing with a depressed H who doesn't think he is. However, my H is perfectly fine with just being separated...he doesn't want a D. He, too, is also saying 'it's not her!'

I could really relate to what robx wrote about pushing the OW towards H. I feel that is what I need to do.

RX is an astute dude. I give his posts heavier consideration. Not just my sitch, but generally. I think his advice regarding H & OW is spot on. What else can I do? My H is OW's BF. So, as they say - 'don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out'. Guess it boils down to self respect vs. M/H. It's a no-brainer, but emotionally gets a little sticky. Ugh.

Anyway, RNM, I just wanted to tell you, I was feeling down today and after reading all your posts and seeing the strength you have...you gave me strength!!

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU,....gg

GG, thank you. That is really kind of you. I'm glad that I can help you feel strong.

At the moment, regarding H/M, I feel like the weakest, most ineffectual sad-sack. Regarding me - I know that I will get thru, survive and thrive. And you, like everyone else here, will survive and be better at the end of the journey, whatever that may be.