I have read this whole thread and I thank all the posters for it .
HB, thanks especially for your post on the LBS journey. I needed to read that tonight as I come to terms with the ashes of my M. It always seems like the story is about the one who leaves and destroys the M. It helps me to see that the LBS has a story and journey too, that is more complex than ending up as a survivor who is emotionally maimed to varying degrees.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.