I"t e gotten quite a lot of db advice to do just that. I agree - scary. Feels like lying. BUt telling the truth seems to be putting us in a polarity. I say the reasons it can work, he says the reason it might not.
Gosh he may be enjoying it. I have no idea anymore. I just know I need to control my urge to "convince" and have a pat answer so it doesn't push my buttons.
In some way I wonder if this is his passive aggressive way of avoiding everything. I don't know.
We sign the legal separation papers tomorrow. I'm doing surprisingly well. I cried and talked to friends earlier today and I'm at a weird state of peace. Maybe part of me wants to D him. NOthing makes any sense any more. I am still committed to DB. When he doesn't see how it could work, I"ll have to show him. I KNOW its possible.
