Doing hard time on the MLC chain gang.

[MHL]

Second, opportunity to knock some sense into me, this may take a 2x6 instead of a 2x4.

So tonight she is supposed to take S9 out to eat or back to her place, Tues and Thurs. D13 has soccer practice and I have been taking her and S9 out to eat all three of us together. Tonight would have been the same except soccer practice got canceled due to weather. So she took S9 out to eat and I stayed with my D13 at home for leftovers.

Wood opportunity: She talked about taking S9 to local Family Sports Bar, (theres an oxymoron) really great place actually. I said "wow I am jealous" and then went on to say "Wife, you know they have Coronas on special tonight???" Did not get a yes or a no just a smile.

No worries, she just walk in with S9 from dinner and the roads are slushing up, it is snowing like a blizzard outside. So much for living in the South!!!! I jokingly tried to get her to sit down for a drink her but she was fearful of the weather, so she left, no hugs but I told her I enjoyed our talk and she said she did too. I said "really" she responded "yes". I guess the day she does not give a chit about the weather will be more than a baby step.

This is from the coffee shop.
FWIW, the talk is good but and we talk about past and how we related to each other then and how things are now. She still does not "Feel" like working on the M. I told her I respect her "feelings" on that and shut up. I think I scored some points but it is true, I do respect her "feelings" now as opposed to the past and that was mostly what I talked about.

She talked about how the "little girl" in her is afraid to say what she wants to say and has been for a long time. My W also said that she is afraid to tell me things because we would disagree. I said can I take a stab at some of the things?
M B/c we are separated you don't see a problem with R with OM and I consider it adultery.
W Yes
M Not a problem, we just disagree.
W I also think we would disagree on what D13 knows and how much you told her, I don't think that was right on your part.
M You are right. (it was hard not to say anything else)

That was as contentious as the conversation got the rest was Relationship 101 discussions. Time flew by and I was the one to say we have to feed the kids. I think we could of gone on for hours.

Trying to keep expectations low. And they are but everyday there are more baby steps, no professions of love and reconciliation but just talk right now.

Someone fill up my PATIENCE tank I am running low.