Awareness of all the feelings/history/reasons you are tied together.
I guess, as they say, "knowing is half the battle."
Does this list help you see ways to work out of the attachment?
Unfortunately, this darn detachment thing isn't like undoing velcro. More like: what is the best, least painful way to chew my arm off to save my life, and then just be joyful to be alive with the possibility of getting a good prosthetic arm?
OK--maybe that's a bit dramatic.
You did recommend The Work, right? if not, do check it out. Even my C said today that it was a good path for me.
But I am thinking of you and sending you love.
Your health, your life, your good heart--that's what's most important.
CityGirl, your toughness is fine by me for me when I read it. Fine in like, thanks for that 2x4 across the head! but really good reality calls. No one said we have to like reality. But we do have to accept it.
