It's THE WORK, not WORD. I think Flowmom clued me in? Totally go google it. I think the damn thing is working.
Yesterday I had to email a friend who said: see you at town meeting! Will X be presenting such and such?
And instead of writing my usual "story": X left me for another woman in August.
I chose to write: "X made the choice to be with another woman." and then some bitter venomous spewing, but the point is the WORK is helping me to re-frame my "story" my "truth" my "interpretation".
You can call in and have someone talk you through it without paying for private facilitation, but I found it enormously helpful.
I am back with my first C, I like her very much, but will try the new Buddhist-mindfullness C when she returns in April.
The annoying thing is how much energy I spent prepping for the darn confrontation (yes, Pearl, I spend too much energy on THEM--I'm working on it!) and it didn't happen. So the boogyman is still lurking out there, darn it.
The good thing is that my "escort" and I did have a good time. Quite possible that a little fling might happen. Just a little one. Boost my ego.
Re our "house fights/flights." I got an extension on X's Feb.28th deadline (wanted not to have the fight engaged before town meeting) I just wrote and said: I will have an answer for you by early next week. (meaning now)
He just wrote back: OK. Thx.--X.
So now I have to write the: I will buy YOU out note. I guess I should write it tonight when I can have a drink (yes, sorry, I am using alcohol as a crutch) and then prepare to read his response on Thursday. Can't have a drink on Wed. because it is rescue night.
I also figured out to have emails from him sent directly to a folder, so I can peek and see if he has written when I am ready to deal with it--not just see his name pop up in the middle of work. Duh, that took awhile to think of.
I'm SO with you on the fear of my X, your X, moving to the apt before you or I move out. Yup. Mine would do it to be an a**hole--would yours do it just for economics?
I'll go over to your thread now to see your update. Sorry you had such a rough week with your uncle passing and work stuff.
