h4l: I hate being the one holding out hope when he isn't. IT's really humiliating. I've fallen into the bad DB trap of trying to "explain" why things could be better and why we "should" work on things. The temptation is huge. BUt I keep reminding myself that will push him away. It's also not self respecting
He also might be enjoying it in some way. Think of that and it will help you to quit doing it. It pushes him away yet he keeps coming back for more of it. Why? CONTROL
