Moving on with my life!

[bright_new_day]

I try to stick to e-mail as well. Then my X told me he doesn't always get a chance to read his e-mail, so for plan changes texts are better. Then I sent him a text regarding a schedule change for a drop off and he never checked his phone. LOL

[Startingover2]

Are you taking her to Disney as planned?

I really wanted to but the funds aren't there right now. To go there for a few days is hugely expensive! Going to put it off until fall. My other kids will be able to go then too.

Can't do the email either. He works away from a computer so sudden changes etc would be a disaster.

Lately the texting has been fine as contact was at a new minimum and it was good. We will see if it was just a yesterday thing or if he is starting a new cycle.

Ok..off to go shopping for her little party. I am going to actually have her kid party during the week so he wouldnt be able to make it anyway. Better for friends too.

[25yearsmlc]

who is he to state that "your lying" (sic) and btw, he misspelled it b/c it's "you're" as in, "you are", not "your" which is possessive. ANYHOW,

you somehow need to detach from the idiotic texts. His ego is so inflated and yet so fragile that he thinks he is in a position to challenge your comments. (If you "need" his help to feel better, I'm sure you'll let him know...) Who are you to be happy without HIM?? How can that be?? OMG...please....

Let him know, verbally or non-verbally, how much of a childish bore he is to you so that eventually his ego won't let him risk seeing the mirror in your face. Then he won't plague you so often. Really it's so controlling and odd for him to text his ex wife this often about a baby...come on!!

I'd "wean" him off this by treating him like the child he behaves like. Needs lots of clarity and repetition and firm, but always calm, reminders of boundaries normal adults have. When he drops the ball, you must let it fall.

You have your own life to live, without a succubus parasite sucking out your will to live...he's such bad news. Please, lose him as much as possible. I'd do nothing to increase his time with her. NOTHING....not saying to block it, or hinder it, but hold him to the dang rules that normal adults have and obey every single day. Most men don't marry several women and have kids with them and cheat (and cheat again,) and drink and drive and get arrested and drink some more, and date ex wives friends or God knows who, and miss half their visitations and don't pay child support in part of in full, or on time...most men are not like him. Most men are a lot better. You are sooo not missing out with this man leaving your life....please see this as the blessing it is. (Sigh) FWIW, I see a lot of attitude progress in your sitch and am hopeful that you'll post something positive from "the other side" in a year or so. Know what I mean? Hope you will soon enough.

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[smith18]

who is he to state that "your lying" (sic) and btw, he misspelled it b/c it's "you're" as in, "you are", not "your" which is possessive. ANYHOW,

Oh oh, looks like 25 is now be a part of da grammer polease...

http://pix.motivatedphotos.com/2009/1/31/633690429598782760-spellingpolice.jpg

[Startingover2]

You have your own life to live, without a succubus parasite sucking out your will to live...he's such bad news. Please, lose him as much as possible. I'd do nothing to increase his time with her. NOTHING....not saying to block it, or hinder it, but hold him to the dang rules that normal adults have and obey every single day. Most men don't marry several women and have kids with them and cheat (and cheat again,) and drink and drive and get arrested and drink some more, and date ex wives friends or God knows who, and miss half their visitations and don't pay child support in part of in full, or on time...most men are not like him. Most men are a lot better. You are sooo not missing out with this man leaving your life....please see this as the blessing it is. (Sigh) FWIW, I see a lot of attitude progress in your sitch and am hopeful that you'll post something positive from "the other side" in a year or so. Know what I mean? Hope you will soon enough.



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The 'other side'? What would that be

I am pushing him out of my life and holding im to the specified days. Noticed since I have been doing this he has been coming less and less. My best guess would be his comment last night about me being 'down' is because I no longer chit chat, answer his every whim, nor let him come and go as he pleases. We are living by our court orders and its making him look really awful because he has to stand on his own 2 feet and he cannot do that. In his mind me being short on the phone and not his buddy anymore must mean that I am sitting in bed with the covers pulled over my head because I miss him so I do wonder what goes through that pickeled brain of his.

[Startingover2]

[quote=Startingover2]What a drunk dickhead!

This has made me laugh all day!

[25yearsmlc]

who is he to state that "your lying" (sic) and btw, he misspelled it b/c it's "you're" as in, "you are", not "your" which is possessive. ANYHOW,

Oh oh, looks like 25 is now be a part of da grammer polease...

http://pix.motivatedphotos.com/2009/1/31/633690429598782760-spellingpolice.jpg

Fine, I confess to being a former English teacher. But I never correct a poster; only their idiot X's, when the idiots write to the LBSer, and reveal their literary & educational deficits...there, is that snobby sounding enough?

BTW, I thought your "Drunk dickhead" (which could have been hyphenated, but let's not quibble) was wonderfully colorful, very Oscar Wilde and all. Well said, Kerryk...

S2, what's the plan for keeping centered, shielded, and staying at peace within, even when the "chaos maker" shoots his arrows at you?
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[bright_new_day]

Fine, I confess to being a former English teacher. But I never correct a poster; only their idiot X's, when the idiots write to the LBSer, and reveal their literary & educational deficits...there, is that snobby sounding enough?

Hee hee, I love to see my illiterate X's grammar/spelling issues. For years I checked everything he wrote, including e-mail, because his spelling is so bad even spell check has a hard time trying to figure out what he is trying to write! The other day he sent me an e-mal with the "mortgauge" information! LOL I guess the new Mrs. X doesn't check his writing for him!! Ha ha.

[Startingover2]

S2, what's the plan for keeping centered, shielded, and staying at peace within, even when the "chaos maker" shoots his arrows at you?
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Plan? Going to keep doing what I have been doing this past month or so. Keeping to schedule, not engaging in dribble nonsense or let him suck me back in.

Also, going to sit back with my soda and popcorn and watch his life spiral down, down, down and not even be in the remote vicinity so that he or his groupies can blame me for his bad choices.

Got everything for baby's parties and her bday presents. Not quite as expensive as I thought so I was pretty happy on the way home. Going to have family party on her bday night and her little friend party a couple of days later. I will invite exh to her actual bday night...wonder how that will go as they share a bday. Last year MIL was here and as we were singing HB to baby she threw in exh's name. LOL My kids just rolled their eyes.

[25yearsmlc]

So...have we resolved whether "dickhead" should be hyphenated or not? Everyone wants to know...
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