I am new to DB.com, just logged in today for the first time and boy did you get my interest because I am going through the exact same thing. My wife has cut herself off from ALL family because no one understands her actions and she feels unsupported. She did however honor birthdays but just left me off the cards as if I no longer exist in the marraige. I got the "I don't love you anymore, but still care for you" and have validated her feelings just like "Puppy Dog Tails" in the post above suggests, but that has got me no where. As a matter of fact I just moved out yesterday to give my kids (and wife) a break. All she wants to do is keep arguing and threatening my with legal action. I too have been talking to my mother in law who is "on my side" and is dumb founded by her daughter. Things have gone down hill for me in a whirlwind 7 weeks, but at least I did try. The only problem is that in my case my wife does not want to try or change and I have come to the fact that I cannot change her opinion or behaviour. That is up to her. If you can, go to counseling for yourself it has helped me a lot....best of luck. David (Married 17.5yrs/Kids 11,15.)
