The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Hey GH31,
I read your sitch and have been checking in from time to time. You've put up with what seems quite a bit to deal with. There are some similarities too.

Originally Posted By: AFWAW
I have not pushed this issue but she keeps pushing for affection which I have given but have not gone overboard as I'm not ready to have my heart stomped on again.

My wife was exactly the same. She wanted me to caress her head and shoulders for hours and hours and hours, because it was "the only thing that gave her comfort".

Wow, that takes a lot of patience. I'm patient but not that much.

All of the above is a wind-up!!! She sounds so much like my wife. Mine will try anything to get me to feel guilty, confused, feeling like I'm to blame. I'm sure she does this because a person in this state is easier to control. I don't know if yours is the same and I hope she isn't.

I didn't think about it like this but it does make sense. I'm not that person anymore though and I think she's sensing that.


On a different note, my daughter(who turned 14 yesterday and has been caught up in this whole thing)reported to me that she saw my wife looking at apartments online yesterday? Something tells me that my hunches about her coming home due to financial issues and seeing my daughter are spot on. I think but am not certain that she is maybe not liking the fact that I don't or haven't caved to her demands since she's been back and maybe she's starting to regret her decision to come home?

I don't know. Should I confront her about surfing for apartments and that my daughter saw her?

Thoughts on this?