RNM,

WOW! I just finished reading your sitch from beginning to now. I think you are doing a great job! smile I just started posting, and could 'feel' your loneliness while you were waiting for responses.

I, too, am dealing with a depressed H who doesn't think he is. However, my H is perfectly fine with just being separated...he doesn't want a D. He, too, is also saying 'it's not her!'

I could really relate to what robx wrote about pushing the OW towards H. I feel that is what I need to do.

Anyway, RNM, I just wanted to tell you, I was feeling down today and after reading all your posts and seeing the strength you have...you gave me strength!! smile smile

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU,....gg

M55
H55
my D31
H D30 1st met her when she was 25
M 22yrs...2nd for me, 1st for H
OW 2005 mother of H daughter, came back to introduce D
1bomb 6/05
2bomb 7/08
3bomb 2/10 moved up north