Flo, I know you don't know how to respond to my posts all the time and that is okay. You don't have to respond at all. I know when I was in the early stages of my situation I had no clue how to respond to "the meanies" when in fact " the meanies" were actually pointing out the facts to me.
(Hint: CityGirl = meanie
I always try and making really clear in my posts that I know how horrid this is. It is horrible. I can't think of anything more horrible. I don't update my thread often because I really don't have contact with my H and who really wants to hear what I think about when I am sad or down? (Hint: nobody, lol!)
Maybe I should share more. So, here it is. When I think about my own situation from time to time I actually get the chills. I have worked long and hard in C'ing to learn how to deal with the "flashbacks" I still have from my ordeal. While they are really under control now (compared to before) from time to time I do still have panic attacks when I think about the past two years.
I know the range of emotions you (general you) can feel during a span of 30 minutes and I know how exhausting it can be. I know you know the range of emotions because you are living it right now. Since we both know I guess I try and focus more on facts and reality because lets be honest, there is nothing I can do or say to make your emotions be less powerful.
I don't have all the answers (hell, I have very few!) but one thing I know is I always stick by people. Ask around, in "real life" I am actually pretty soft spoken and gentle Luvless can tell you I am not all that cut and dry!
I know all divorces don't go as badly as mine do. I also know a red flag when I see one. And for a long time I ignored all the red flags. I second guessed everything and I was terrified. I also was quite ill at the time so things just spun out of control. I am not being bitchy when you make comments about your H's health issues because I get it. I live it!
I just don't want to see you get jerked around. And maybe the intent of the WAS is not to jerk the LBS around but it does seem to go that way no matter what intentions may exist.
You seem like a very smart, caring and compassionate person. Don't let all those really great things get tangled up or diminished on account of all of "this" BS. It was not all that long ago I felt like the most worthless, ugliest and useless person on the planet. Do better than me. I know you want to do right by your kids (and you already are) but do right by yourself as well.
