my copy/paste function isn't working but
"realistic also means not getting stuck in hopelessness" is exactly my message.

and, sadly, I agree that it is highly possible that your H is operating on legal advice regarding the amount of time he is spending with the kids (but he DOES love them, too!)

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004