I'm terrified too, but for the opposite reason. I wonder if later on as the kids grow up if I will re-evaluate and say goodbye. I don't ever want to put her through this, or me, again!! I figure, the important thing is now that I have advice, books, experience, etc., I need to make this choice a lifelong one as much as I can. It is still a risk, but isn't life full of risks?
Which risk are you more terrified of having: - your H and you work things out and have an amazing few months or years, but then later he leaves, - OR of going out and finding a new H but with him new problems that might lead to a different breakup, too (or not)
The first one has many advantages you know, the latter has a lot of uncertainty. To me with my excitement seeking brain, the latter is scary but intoxicating, even though I think logically it is the worst of the two.
