Thanks I will try it. Did your spouse come with an open heart and open mind?

I am worried mine is not but have been given good advice not to challenge her on her motives before the weekend and trust the process.

TBL now equals "Toward Better Love"
M-44 W-42; 2 kids; married 11 years
1st bomb 10-08, reconcile 12-08
2nd bomb 8-09, moving toward reconcile 3-7-10