IRMA, I am not going to argue with you or your beliefs, you are a grown woman and will do as you wish. I do have some things to say that you honestly need to think about. If your H is doing what you told me you thought he was doing (Illegal) how is that sitting with your religious beliefs? I have an issue with that, talking one hand about your religion, but yet standing for someone who would do something like you told me. I think you really need to pray on that one. Next, IRMA, I can tell you that if you threw your H's affair up in his face all the time, there is no way he feels safe with you and I don't see how he can feel safe with you. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but it is what it is. Major difficult to overcome. Next, your H has nothing to do with his kids, support or otherwise. Do you honestly think he can turn all that around and fix his relationship with you? Next, he has had virtually no communication with you in quite some time, he also lives far away, so how can you overcome the distance and communication barrier? IRMA, as I said before, its your choice to stand until you are dead if that is what you wish, but I think you really need to tackle some of the issues and questions I have raised to you. IRMA, have you had any I.C.? If not, I strongly recommend that you get it if at all possible. I think you have some issues you really need to work on, I'm not putting you down by saying that, everyone needs help from time to time.
