My thread in Newcomers was locked, so I'll take that as a subtle hint that I should be moving on to this forum. So, making the initial post, planting the flag, and saying, yeah, this is the road I'm on.
So, I've got the Goo Goo Dolls' Greatest Hits playing in my car recently, so I'll take my thread title from them - this one seems more optimistic than "Here is Gone" Incidentally, for anyone interested, Goo Goo Dolls' Greatest Hits is whole lot like listening to the radio. I suppose if I go buy Matchbox20's greatest hits and put that in my car, I won't be able to tell the difference.
We're on the last part of the road now. Have mediation on Thursday night, have largely sorted out what we want to do. Our interactions are on the same cycle, the intimate moments on Sunday to her being angry about money last night. And I guess I've realized that it's so easy to be drawn in, I just responded with "I'm not doing anything to antagonize you." "Just tell me what you need." Cause you know, when she says this all seems unfair, that's my cue to tell her it's the consequences of the choices she's made. But, that's not the right response. The truth is, she was unhappy and she'd rather make these choices than continue with our marriage.
She still makes statements something like, she's rather have a relationship after we're divorced, rather than stay married - see what happens "organically". I'm not sure what to say to that. Ohh, it's the same old stuff I've posted a hundred times. Ruminating doesn't help.
So - what's the upside? We can keep this on good terms. We can make choices for the benefit of the boys. I'm keeping the house, so I'll be moving home. These are good things.
OK well, here I am. Surviving the big D. Hopefully will be better than surviving. Here's to "Better Days".
Incidentally, for anyone interested, Goo Goo Dolls' Greatest Hits is whole lot like listening to the radio. I suppose if I go buy Matchbox20's greatest hits and put that in my car, I won't be able to tell the difference.