WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

I was never afraid of losing him.. that didn't work out too well...

[C-Bart]

Diamond,
I've been exactly were you are right now. You are placing your value on the acceptance of another person. You are a valuable person regardless of the actions taken by your H. I know its hard to imagine that you are love-able right now but you are. Start by learning to love yourself. This is a love that no one can take away. Then love your kids, your friends and even your H but don't let them be the center of your emotional universe.

If you like to read pick up a copy of Susan Anderson from abandonment to healing. Really helped me work through the issue of feeling worthless and unlovable.

[Mach1]

I was never afraid of losing him.. that didn't work out too well...

Right now ?

If you look objectivly ?

You lost BOTH of you....

Until you can find YOU again....

How is HE gonna find you ?

Try and put your focus where it needs to be right now....

[Lostforwords]

Never being as happy again as I was on my wedding day and the years before it

Interesting DG...Do you think that finding yourself might change this statement?

[DiamondGirl]

I only felt truly alive and loved after I met him.. we were together 5 years before the wedding date.. wanted to be sure it was the forever kind of love..

Before then I had been in therapy for years figuring out that I deserved to be loved...and not abused.. now I'm back at square one again.. with other people depending on me to be strong.. when I don't feel it...

[Lostforwords]

DG-

You are strong...it is in there. You deserve to be loved as much as you deserve to be able to love somebody....but it all starts with loving yourself.

Right now there are others that depend on your strength and love. I bet they still love you back? Unconditionally I bet even.

Be the strong woman that you are and don't let the poor actions of another take that away.

[C-Bart]

~ Rough around the edges, a work in progress, but still precious ~


Your not back at square one. This is a detour not a change in destination. It is an opportunity to grow like you've never grown before.

[DiamondGirl]

so it hit the fan again.. D got abusive on the phone and threatened to kill me if I hindered him seeing the kids... said he was coming up here and taking them from me...

[DiamondGirl]

So I guess I have my answer as to whether to do anything or not about filing for custody

[Drew]

Why does he think you would hinder him seeing the kids?