There MAY come a point where you may have to make a decision. It's too early for that right now. If she is back and not having any affair, I'd say keep working on it.

Once they are out and boffing someone else, it is problematic, especially when they leave under the same roof. It is NEVER OK to do that.

No..detaching means not being dependent on them for your emotional needs and well-being.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;