Thanks for the answer, by the way, I am taking your advice to heart. I agree with what you noted, a little painful perhaps, but good advice.
I am very pleased that she is willing to go to the weekend. I had brought it up months ago and she was not interested, she actually brought it up this time (and then she agreed that night to watch Fireproof which someone had given us months before).
She has a friend that went to Retrouvaille and got divorced and said to her it was a good way to learn to communicate better post divorce.
So I am a bit leery of her true motives, but look forward to the weekend. Sounds a bit challenging and exhausting (per TrentC's post).
What I am perplexed about is asking her "hey are you coming with an open mind and willing heart?" Because I prefer her to go with a closed mind and closed heart vs. not going at all. Thoughts?
TBL now equals "Toward Better Love" M-44 W-42; 2 kids; married 11 years 1st bomb 10-08, reconcile 12-08 2nd bomb 8-09, moving toward reconcile 3-7-10
