Just posted this on another thread but thought that it might be helpful here to give more insight into my W.
For what it's worth:
"Hi Guys,
My WAW is now 45 and she is also a victim of teenage sexual abuse and had a lot of counseling 8 years ago when she decided to WA. It started as M counseling but I say it was "hijacked" to eal with her past sexual abuse and she says it was because I wouldn't participate in the M counseling. We are probably both right in some ways.
Anyway, I would recommend the book "The Wounded Heart" if you want to read more about it. My W read it 8 years ago and wanted me to read it then. I got about half way through and then stopped. Last year when I was talking to my W about how i was there for her 8 years ago when she went back and confronted several members of her family she countered with "Yea, but you didn't read the book". I have since reread the whole book an really enjoyed the last section that I never got to the first time. Things really became clear and I realized that I had been keeping the abuse cycle going in our marriage for the past 24 years and was an "abuser surrogate". I would recommend the book to anyone who was abused or knows someone who was abused.
Take care,
Ken"
Me48 WAW46 M24 yrs S24 D21 D19 EA disc 6/09 2nd EA Fall 09 I move out 11/12/09 W and I switch 1/14/10 D Filed 3/17/10 W moves in with OM 6/8/10 D Final 6/21/10
