I guess what confuses me about the legalities, is that any process that is less adversarial/expensive (mediation, collaborative divorce, etc.) would require my active involvement and buy-in. If I am passive with respect to the D proceedings, doesn't that force him into an adversarial stance? I guess I will ask my IC about that (because he's involved in D stuff).
Yes do let us know what your IC says. However, I would think that being passive with the mediation process might look like letting your H be the one to set it up, pay for it, and you state once (OK others will need to help out with the phrasing)
"This is not my choice. I am committed to our marriage and want to rebuild it to be more fulfilling and rewarding than before. But if this is what YOU want, I won't fight you."
????I would love to know what the vets suggest to say/do when it reaches this point! I'm pretty sure you are supposed to go with the flow (sorry!) because it would be a 180 and you don't want to make him proceed faster.
Last edited by newmama; 03/02/1005:43 PM.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
