WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Thank you for the comments 25. I agree with what you say with regard to how she needs to be treated AS LONG AS THE EA IS OVER. You have to understand the history of my situation to get where I was coming from yesterday.

I am taking the "tough love" approach now because of what has happened previously in our situation. Believe me, I tried giving my wife all the love she said she was lacking, only to have her cake eat for months. I am not trying to punish her at all. I want to show her how much love I have for her, but I'm not going to do that with a woman who is keeping another man on the side.

If you read through my prior thread, you will get a better understanding of how we arrived here.

All I'm trying to do is what has worked with regards to DBing. Reconciliation cannot take place without trust and while an affair is ongoing. I'm not punishing her or retaliating. I'm just telling her I am willing to build a beautiful relationship and correct every error of the past as long as she is open to it. She will show she is open by dropping every link to the OM. That's all. That is not unreasonable, and I think the sources on this site that everyone regards as "pros" in this area (Puppy, Robx, coach, and the rest) would agree.

I totally respect your opinion and I'm not blowing you off at all. I just think you haven't seen the whole story here.

My wife has backtracked before. I just don't want to be played for a patsy again. The only time I have seen any progress is when I refuse to allow any cake eating.