Thanks BND...you are a wise woman.... I know I will have to set boundaries I am not going to be a doormat IF he ever comes home..... yes I know the feeling of waiting for those divorce papers I hate it when I do that.....but when I read your response I knew these were not just my fears but others as well.... there are times when I feel good that I have learned so much from here and that i will be ok.....
when I do get talk with him he is sounding so much like my husband but I can always tell when she is around him he is very business like when she is not around he talks to me like we are close friends......
but I really dont know him anymore he looks sooooooooo different......have you ever seen a guy on a harley...and he has the long hair, the chaps, the gloves,boots,vest and all the other stuff that they wear...that is my husband now..hair down to his shoulder blades weighs like 240-250lbs.....
we look at his pics he sends us sometimes and we are like dang what happened to him....and the sad thing is he thinks he looks good.....I remember when him and I would see guys like that and he would laugh and say stuff like what an idiot and he is one of them now......our children have totally detached themselves from their father they hardly ever speak.Anyways I know it will be very hard work we will both have to know each other all over again.......but i am in it till the end...no matter what happens those are my beliefs......have a great day wish I was in the snow with ya.....see ya chica besos
