I guess I'm having trouble with the avoiding part. We still live together and I work from home. I have made a VERY conscious effort to not initiate conversations and he still initiates them.
I guess its confusing because he says he wants a divorce, etc. But then he still wants to watch TV with me at night, cuddle, wants a hug. I feel like he is conflicted in a way. Which almost makes it worse because it almost seems fake. Am I just supposed to say I dont want to watch TV with him (just using this as an example). He works Wed-Sat at night so I dont really see him on those days anyway.
I got the books and read them but again, I just wonder if Im doing everything correctly. His main complaints about me are always: 1) I dont like to have fun; 2) I'm a mean person; 3) He's not attracted to me. I have tried to turn a 180 on these - haven't yelled, bothered, asked him to do anyhting in the last week and a half. I've been doing things on my own.
Also, we are going on a vacation in one week.
Does anyone think that the phone advice is helpful?
