The L works for you. Tell him the truth, be honest and listen to what he says. He shouldn't be doing anything that you don't want. He is looking out for your best interests. I am sure if he is good he knows what a MLC is.
The L works for you. Tell him the truth, be honest and listen to what he says. He shouldn't be doing anything that you don't want. He is looking out for your best interests. I am sure if he is good he knows what a MLC is.
You will be fine!
Well he's a she (:)).....but does it matter to a L if there is a MLC invovled? Should it matter to me at this point?
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
Yes. Tell her you do not want this divorce and she is to do nothing to move it forward unless she has to. And under NO circumstances should she do anything for or at the request of your husband.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
Yes. Tell her you do not want this divorce and she is to do nothing to move it forward unless she has to. And under NO circumstances should she do anything for or at the request of your husband.
Ok ---- another question. What is the most PASSIVE way of letting H know who my L is. He said to have her contact him----which seems non-passive to me. Do I tell her who she is after I'm officially signed up and tell him he can contact her???
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
I think you DON'T tell him anything. If he asks you are waiting for his paperwork as you don't want to incur any additional expense! Ask you L what she thinks.
Ok ---- another question. What is the most PASSIVE way of letting H know who my L is. He said to have her contact him----which seems non-passive to me. Do I tell her who she is after I'm officially signed up and tell him he can contact her???
There is a process...
If and When he files....you will get "served" papers...
At that point, you can give the papers to your lawyer and set up your plan of action of how to respond....
Most lawyers have a pretty good understanding of MLC, or at least the public face of MLC....
Let this be his dance to dance ....
Your answers can simply be "yes" or "no"answers to his demands.
Why would YOU pay your lawyer to write HIS divorce decree ?
Let this playout quietly for now, just be prepared when push comes to shove....
Simply put....????
The most passive way is to NOT....
The legal system , while affective, is naturally slow.
A nudge in the proper direction can make it a crawl....
