I don't think a "No Hug Zone" is being a doormat. Although not receiving any feels $hilty, as long as you are not being 'abused', used, etc.

I had many nicknames for my STBXW, the ice queen for one. I remember weeks..months ...(?years?)...of looking at her back in bed while she huddled into her 2-3 feet on her side of the bed and calling it The Great Wall of China.

Obviously, women are not like us Bobby. If they feel no emotional connection, they are not going to have sex with us, kiss us or hug us. Don't smother them with requests for it or push it on them.

Detach. Read Dr. Gray's book.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;