Haven't posted in a while but have been checking in on others from time to time. Just a summary of my sitch: married 24 years. 2 children -ages 20 and 17. 3 years ago - H began an EA with a W at work (we both work in the same place). Started as friend to both of us but then he developed a close friendship and it went on from there. I questioned him about this. H said he was unhappy in our M. I hadn't made him a priority. Didn't feel loved, my job was more important to me than he was, etc. Guess I made some mistakes. Things were very bad then a little better then bad again. Started d'bing a little less than a year ago. Now- seems like thing with OW has cooled off I think. Some things have improved. Intimacy especially but this is also up and down. Never says ILY but sometimes acts like he does. Seems to be trying at times -spends more time at home, tries not to do things that hurt me. But we never talk. About our R or anything about our feelings. This has been hard. We still don't do things together much as a couple just the 2 of us. I really long for this and don't know how to make it happen. It seems like he doesn't really enjoy my company. Doesn't seem happy when we're together and I don't know what to do. How do you make someone enjoy spending time with you? Is this possible? Open for suggestions? Lyn
