ACJ and TRUSTING...I will soon D'd, like many other people here. STBXW is an attractive blue-eyed blond and I'm sure that men will pounce on her (they have already and it will be THEIR problem now). I, too, will eventually face a stepfather. The best I can do is continue to be a loving father in their lives, a role model and be available to them to listen.

I understand that,perhaps, there are different issues involved when there is a step mother in place. All I can say is, as we've already read over and over here, there are some things we can control and others we can't. WE (including myself), have no control in this department other than to maintain our own values when our children are with us.

I don't look forward to the day when a permanent OM arrives and begins to enter the lives of my kids. However, it won't be easy for her, either, when I fall in love again with another woman (which I hope happens).

Perhaps my posts will be different when I am in both your places. I think it's best to choose that Irish saying, "G-d give me the serenity........."

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;