Remember, do not believe anythng she says, look to her actions. This is a long road. Try to put it out of your mind as this will affect your db'ing efforts.
There comes a point where you want to validate your efforts with your spouse, but like everyone says, do not. This is pressure towards her. I believe the general rule is 1 month per every year married and that is just a guideline.
Sorry, you got hit on the head, we all do get hit in the head sometimes. You have a good mindset, and I know it would be a lot easier if it were not for children being envolved, and for mine I could go on forever getting hit in the head.
