Mike it looks like you set some decent emotional goals for yourself. I wanted to share this w/ you- I'm sure others have posted this before.
I contemplated this morning when it was that my feelings changed for WAW.
It wasn't over breakfast or some enlightened experience where she was doing something and I watched her w/o her knowing.
It was the minute she said she was done and didn't want to work it out- and have her actions match that statement.
I honestly feel like she did not exist in my world until that happened- I know she was there, but I was so busy w/ everything else.
That's what you need to do to save the M- be the WAS and detach, GAL, be attractive for the opposite sex, and let W feel like you could care less.
I may be off- but that's exactly how it flipped my switch...here I am 6 months into this, she's out of the house and w/ OM2...and I have still failed at becoming the WAS>
