Lola

I think I am dealing with the same symptom lack of empathy. Look up Histrionic Personality Disorder. That is my big concern. They don't register what their actions can do to other people. There is no connection with that emotion. My W when I found out about the affair and had to read all the texts back and forth about how much she wanted to be with OM and then emails about their sexcapades all she could say was "I never meant to hurt you". WTF? You know what your doiong. You know right from wrong you just choose yourself. And of course "Im sorry" but they know how to use words. They know what to say. They know how to lie because there is no guilt. No empathy.I though she was going through a hard time and it will pass. She has consistently shown me that no matter what she says she is most capable of making the selfish choice which is to follow her hedonistic whims.

I don't know if this can be cured. What I have read is that is very difficult to treat. And the most important thing is they have to want to get help.

One question: Is he in the habit of showing you unsolicited affection? Like does he caress you out of trhe blue, kiss you out the blue, rub yoiur shoulders that kind of thing?


My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am